repugnant impulse for introspection
one would think that those closest to someone, would garner the most trust and faith.
why is it that the opinion of others carries so much more weight than that of close friends and family? what does it matter what other people – strangers - think?
*oh, but it does matter*
i would say, “i look disgusting.”
to which the reply would be, “you’re gorgeous.”
“you’re just saying that coz you’re biased, and you want me to be happy.”
*why is there a problem with that?*
**sigh**
maybe more faith should be put in the words of those who know you best.
who know me best.
why is it that the opinion of others carries so much more weight than that of close friends and family? what does it matter what other people – strangers - think?
*oh, but it does matter*
i would say, “i look disgusting.”
to which the reply would be, “you’re gorgeous.”
“you’re just saying that coz you’re biased, and you want me to be happy.”
*why is there a problem with that?*
**sigh**
maybe more faith should be put in the words of those who know you best.
who know me best.
posted by AristoNeeks | 7:56 am
one can generally trust the people who know you best to tell you the (objective) truth about yourself. we are often just too biased to be trusted with opinions about ourselves.
I understand what your saying though. Who wants to be followed through life surrounded by sycophants and toadies who don't wish to hurt someone's feelings, but in the long run, make you mistrust almost everything. If I ask an opinion, I want an honest answer, not what one thinks I wish to hear. Sorry, but I haven't been online in quite some time and just finally started adding stuff to my blog and ran into your comment. I'm slowly reading through yours now. I'll post more later.
We value the opinion of strangers--I think in part--because we know it is not "sugarcoated."
Strangers have absolutely no vested interest in the impact that their opinion will have on us--so we feel we are getting pure truth.
So when a stranger says, "You look nice" or "You smell nice," we place a lot of value in that.
Of course, the stranger could just be blowing smoke up our ass for whatever reason. But by and large, I think not.
my method of suicide (had to leave it here since I'm not a team member of your blog)would be in such a way as to cause consternation among those who would investigate it. Either I would kill myself in such a way that it would look like murder or light myself aflame after yelling "For Allah!" making everyone wonder when I went from being an agnostic to a Muslim. On a serious note, if you need to drop a line, don't hesitate...strangers make the best listeners...no judgements...they also have the best candy. P.S. per your comment on my blog, anything is infinitely possible in an infinte universe.
so, if there were a bottom line, it would be...
people closest to u, lie to make you feel better, coz they care.
strangers are honest, coz they couldnt care less.
but, i think i would feel like an imbecile if i went around exposing my insecurities to a bunch of people i dont know.
regardless of the quality of their candy. ^_^
I drove a cab for years and it always amazed me the depth of people's honesty when confessing things to a stranger. There were times when I just wanted to turn around and tell them to shut the fuck up, I don't need to know that you want to dismember your mother and secretly dry hump women in the elevator.